Monday, November 2, 2009
Friday, August 7, 2009
We all are friendly people very much aware of everything, we are very polite with our colleagues & fellow people till we are not asked about something called "TRUTH" and to avoid the consequence of the truth that can be caused if committed in public we use manipulative truth which is not 100% truth and not 100% lie,in other words it is the step brother of Truth.See as there is the famous saying that "Need is the mother of all invention."so to safeguard of ourselves we cook up something that is digestible.But my point is do we really need to do this,why can't we have the courage to accept it? If we can have the courage of committing it despite knowing its consequences then why can't we have the courage to accept it?
We are so used this process that we almost create an illusionist image of ourselves in public and in order protect and maintain that image we start the series of lies.
It is high time we need to do a reality check and accept the truth and relieve ourselves from the burden of all the lies.I am not encouraging you to participate in the show lest you think that I am a promoter of the show,glad to inform you that I am not its promoter although I like that show.If you minus the price money which is the main reason why people are ready to face and accept their ugly truth,the whole concept of facing and accepting the truth is very much commendable and should be encouraged.I am not saying that one should accept his/her truths in public but one should realize the importance of truth in ones life.If you can not accept something in public which could spoil your image,then don't just commit that,being truthful to oneself is what that will give us the real pleasure of living.Sometimes things are not in our control, things happen which we don't intentionally want,and for that we can hardly do any thing to avoid but if there is an opportunity to avoid something that is not good then just be courageous to stop it.
Today's world is filled with millions of hypocrites-who believe and promote something and do exactly the opposite in their lives.So stop being hypocrites and start accepting truth!!
Thursday, March 12, 2009
Here's the email......
NINE WORDS WOMEN USE
I understand though we born for a woman, brought up with sisters,married a woman & have daughters, it drives every single man absolutely crazy if he EVER tries to understand the 'lingo of women'.
Pl find below a small contribution from my side to your 'better living'...
(1) Fine: This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.
(2) Five Minutes: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.
(3) Nothing: This is the calm before the storm. This means something,and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.
(4) Go Ahead: This is a dare, not permission. Don't Do It!
(5) Loud Sigh: This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing.
(Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of nothing.)
(6) That's Okay: This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. That's okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.
(7) Thanks: A woman is thanking you, do not question, or faint. Just say you're welcome. (I want to add in a clause here - This is true, unless she says 'Thanks a lot' - that is PURE sarcasm and she is not thanking you at all. DO NOT say 'you're welcome' . that will bring on a 'whatever').
(8) Whatever: Is a woman's way of saying F-- YOU!
(9) Don't worry about it, I got it : Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking 'What's wrong?'
Wednesday, March 11, 2009
Lets all have lots of fun.
Wednesday, March 4, 2009
Life is how we see it,isn't it? Haven't you heard this line several times? At least I have heard this several times.This line is truly motivational but do you think it is practical,can we really deny the existence of pain, grief and sufferings.I know it is hard to forget these pain, grief and sufferings but it is even hard to carry your life with them.Nobody can ever change anybody's behavior,thoughts or their perception of life.And I have no intention to change it but I want to show that with the effort one can change their thoughts and life for better.
I fell really blessed that I have grandparents,I feel lucky to have them and their guidance. Their wisdom is very precious gift god grants us.They know life more than we know,their life experiences can really be helpful.I feel disgusted when I see people not respecting their parents and even their grandparents.Once I overheard my grandfather talking to his friend,he said "We older people live in past and these young generation lives in future." This sentence made me think how true he was,don't we really do that.We don't enjoy are present cause we worrying about our future which is unpredictable.
We realize the value of something when we loose it,isn't it? Being a child is a beautiful gift god grants,but we fail to understand its beauty and dream to be young as soon as possible and once when we do get young we realize how beautiful childhood was.Life becomes complex as we grow up and we get busy solving these complexities that we don't realize that time is not waiting for us and we are getting older day by day without enjoying our life.
Life has predefined goals for us and once we achieve one we start preparing to achieve another goal of life.Somehow we all have similar goals of life, at young age we take education to be successful in life,when grow a bit older i.e, when we cross the age limiter of 20 our goal is job(career) and our parents' goal of life becomes our marriage and then you know what.Life takes a full circle.So please don't live life like monotonous job,experiment with different shades of life and create a beautiful picture filled with true emotions and lovely moments.
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
She also care and love her husband,Harsh a lot , that was the reason they got married 6 months back against Harsh's parents' wishes.This was the main reason why her mother-in-law had become troublesome.Harsh's mother didn't like Ragini from the day one especially because she belongs to another caste and she was against their marriage but Harsh and Ragini were adamant about their decision.Harsh's mother had to surrender herself and accepted their marriage halfheartedly.Ragini's mother-in-law would always disagree with her and would find some or the other way to abuse or taunt her but Ragini never uttered a word against her.She tried her level best to win her heart but all went in vain.
After making several unsuccessful attempts to change things Ragini asked Harsh to get separated from his family and lead a happy life together but being an only son,Harsh didn't want his parents to lead their life alone,so he always used escape from this situation by convincing her that time will change everything.
Ragini waited for things to turn for better for 6 months but nothing changed,things turned even sour between her and her mother-in -law.This affected her married life.
On one not-so fine morning Ragini made-up her mind to leave her husband and lead her life alone.Harsh tried to convince her that he will try to change the environment of the house and will convince his mother to change her behavior, but all went in vain.Ragini had already suffered a lot and hence she no longer wanted her life to be like that.She repeatedly said to her mind that change is brought and not happens suddenly and now is the time to bring that change,even if it is too difficult.
She hurriedly packed her bags and left home.Harsh tried hard to stop her,he ran after her to stop her but she felt it was her saturation point and she can no longer adjust with his parents.She dragged her bags into an auto rickshaw asked the driver to take her to the station.Harsh ran after her, tried hard to convince her but she ordered the driver to move.Harsh didn't lose hope,he followed her to the station and even till she board the train but Ragini ignored him,she didn't want to hear anything because she knew if she will look at him even once then she won't be able to leave him.
As she board the train she saw a vacant window seat,she moved towards there to occupy it,ignoring her surrounding.Train left the station and so did the hope of Harsh to bring back Ragini in his life again.As the train left,Ragini felt lousy and low,she closed her eyes and soon she went into flashback. She recalled every moment she spent with her friend Harsh and then Harsh as her soulmate.Slowly tears dropped from her eyes.
Ragini came back to reality when the train halts with a sudden jerk at the next station.Soon the environment changed with hustle-bustle of the passengers moving in and out of the train.Ragini opened her eyes, wiped her tears and tried to control her emotions and tried to act normal.Train left the station,now the environment was calm again.She looked around trying to divert and distract herself from thinking about her past.She noticed an aged woman sitting next to her,she had a very serene face but had bruises on it.Ragini could not resist herself from asking her how she got hurt.That lady smiled as Ragini questioned her and replied,"Thanks for your concern beta,I am very touched by your gesture.It was just an accident." Ragini felt an instant connection with that lady as she had very motherly touch.Ragini was not convinced with that answer and she wanted her to elaborate it."
Earlier that lady was too reluctant to speak about her life with Ragini and tried to change the topic but Ragini was too curious to know the real reason.After much provocation,she pour her heart out to Ragini.
She said,"Beta,I feel really bad to speak about it but if you insist then....these bruises are caused by my mother-in-law.
"What?? Your mother-in-law??",Ragini exclaimed,"But why? and why are you taking all this from her and what about your husband?"
After a poignant pause she replied,"Its a long story beta,I am stuck in the logjam.My husband never raised his voice against his mother to support me.He blindly follows her wishes but yes he loves me and I know how difficult it is for him to see me like this but he is helpless.When my mother-in-law slapped me for the first time I was very upset so I packed my bags and went to my maternal home with my two year old son expecting support from my family,but instead of supporting me my father took me back to my husband's house and advised me to sort all my family matters with them.From that day onwards,I have suffered all tortures from my mother-in-law and never looked back to my parents.Now my mother-in-law is around 80 year old but she still behaves in a similar manner with me.But now I have learnt to soak all the pain inside me and stay unaffected."
Ragini looked at her with disbelief and asked,"Why anybody would suffer so much torture and would sacrifices so much?"
Then the lady smiled and replied,"I did all this and I will suffer all this to be with my loving husband and with my two lovely children.I paid a price to be with them.I don't regret about my decision because the amount of happiness and love I get from them is far more than the amount of pain I had to suffer."
Ragini was too astonished to hear these words from that lady.Ragini gave her a warm hug and said,"Thank you very much for sharing your feelings with me.With your experience of life I have learnt a lesson.....which may change my life.I was about to spoil my own marriage for some trivial issues.Now I will give it another try.Now I have realized that even if I get separated from Harsh I won't be able to live my life happily."
P.S: This is adapted from real incident.
P.S: This is my first attempt of story telling.Hope you like it.
Friday, February 6, 2009
To realize the value of one year: Ask a student who has failed a final exam.
To realize the value of one month: Ask a mother who has given birth to a premature baby.
To realize the value of one week: Ask an editor of a weekly newspaper.
To realize the value of one hour: Ask the lovers who are waiting to meet.
To realize the value of one minute: Ask the person who has missed the train, bus or plane.
To realize the value of one second: Ask a person who has survived an accident.
To realize the value of one millisecond: Ask the person who has won a silver medal in the Olympics.
Time waits for no one.
Treasure every moment you have. You will treasure it even more when you can share it with someone special.
I have read this poem several times but never realized how true it is,until I experienced it myself.
I failed in my final exam,it was so shocking for me as I had never tasted the taste of failure before.Then I thought failure is not the end of life I thought of giving it another try,I filled my exam form and was expecting exams to be held in the month of November,like it happens every year.As it was my final year papers,I didn't have to attend lectures because course was completed from the college's side.I completely lost connection with my friends and classmates as I was busy with my job and other activities.I simply had no clue about the new developments, as the result I had no information about my examination being rescheduled and were suppose to start a month before.
I being so careless,I didn't keep note of my exam time table and got to know about my exams only after they were over.Due to my unawareness,I could not give my annual exam I had nothing left in my hands except cursing myself.Due to my careless behavior I lost valuable time of my life.But with this experience of my life now I have learned the value of time.
So learn to value time before its too late!!!
Saturday, January 31, 2009
How true it is practically, I don't know but for me it is more important to be a good person than being most beautiful person physically,for me a human being should have good qualities.Of course it is physical beauty that is what primary thing we notice in others but this does not lasts for long,it is important that one should back it up with good qualities.Inner beauty is never tarnished.It is never too late to evolve inner beauty within oneself.
We all are familiar with the word "Beauty" and its definition but how many of us really understand what is real beauty? Different people have different definition of it but what bothers me is that why do we give more importance to the outer beauty which is short lived, whereas inner beauty that persists throughout our life and for some even after their death is not acknowledged and not given its advantage.
"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder",this is a very common phrase and very true.Things are truly the way we see them.For me the most important asset of human being is his "Inner Beauty",do tell your views about it,how do you personally define beauty?
We all have different perspective of life and I would like to share some different perspectives of life.
Some quotes that define a different perspective of life:
Having inner beauty is something you develop on your own, and I like to think I have that.
Inner beauty should be the most important part of improving one's self.
"It is not what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about."
- Dale Carnegie
"The true philosopher and the true poet are one, and a beauty, which is truth, and a truth, which is beauty, is the aim of both."
Poetry Quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson
-American Poet (1803-1882)
“In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: it goes on.”
Monday, January 26, 2009
As they say "Variety is the spice of life".It is good to be different and unique than to be lost in the world of similar people.
Our whole world is distributed into 3 forms of comparisons-Positive, the comparative and superlative.Higher the degree of comparison gets, more complex life becomes.I am not saying comparison is bad because if we compare two things only then we can rate and judge their values.Like when we go for buying a new AC or any other electronic item it is inevitable to compare products of different brands,we compare their rates ,features ,benefits ,etc..etc.. and only then we buy the product that suits our needs and fits in our budget.We can make a profitable deal only by comparing pros and cons.But that does not implies that we should bring the habit of comparison while making or breaking relationships.Comparisons should be kept away from human beings related subjects to avoid unwanted results in our life.Stop comparison for good!!! As comparison will only lead to dissatisfaction.
Saturday, January 17, 2009
How important is to be successful that we even forget the importance of participating,the importance of at least trying hard by giving ones hundred percent to be successful.Sure, being successful is the ultimate goal but trying harder next time is what one should do even if one gets failed this time and should also give value to it and learn from it.Don't consider it complete failure because you are still a step ahead of others who didn't even make an attempt,due to fear of defeat.There is a saying "Failure increases experience and experience decreases mistakes" . So it is important to try no matter what the result may be,because even if one fails he will surely learn what should not be done to gain success.
It is always better to make another attempt than to sit idle and cringe about mistakes one made in the past.Best way to use your past is to take it as a lesson to avoid repeating the same mistakes again. What does one do when he/she fails? Don't we start finding the reasons of our failure? But most of the time we start blaming others for our mistakes since it is really easy to let your own burden on ours and feel free,but our conscious always know the real culprit.Our present actions determine our future,nothing else but it is our work that will determine our position in the future.
Don't we cling to our past? Ones who do so will always stay there and will never be able to taste the sweet taste of success.It is not bad to be a failure but it is the biggest mistake one could make if they do not try again.One should never lose the spirit of working hard.Never lose hope!!! Even if today is not yours but tomorrow can be yours,put efforts today to make your tomorrow better by learning lessons from your yesterday.
Tuesday, January 6, 2009
Today’s world has become a serious mystery for me. I don’t understand what is wrong with the people, why they crave for money so much that they have lost the real motive of living. They don’t value the beauty of being a human. I guess only devils rule this world.
The need for money will never end. They don’t mind looting the common man. Now even these common men are also looting their subordinates. Like there is a saying,” Big fish eats small fish”. The only motive of living is just collecting the money as much as possible.Crave for earning more and more money has ruined man’s mind. They just want money by any means.The whole motive of writing such an article was to make people aware of what they are doing at the cost of humanity. We humans are becoming so selfish these days that we only look our means in every work. If it is profitable, we do it, if not, we don’t.
I know world won’t change instantly but if we try to change ourselves, only then, gradually, we will see a changed world.